You are at X, and you want to get to Y. There is a sizable gap between where you are and where you want to go.
Stare at it too long, and it will start to seem uncrossable. Even worse, it may begin to blur your vision of the real problem.
Your problem is not the gap. Your problem is the obstacles that lie in the way.
Someone who stares at the gap starts asking the wrong questions like, "Why am I not in shape yet?" or "Why do I lack discipline and motivation?"
All these questions do is keep us fixated on the gap. They tell us where we want to go, but they offer no legitimate solutions on how to get there.
Bad questions lead to bad solutions.
For example, let's say you asked yourself, "Why am I not in shape yet?" Maybe your answer would be because you don't eat healthy. So, you make a seemingly logical decision to purchase a diet plan from a social media influencer that you follow.
And then you quit two weeks later when you lose motivation or discover that the plan is too restrictive for your desires or schedule.
Instead of asking "why," start your questions with "what."
What is happening or not happening, that would help me cross the gap?
Notice how the question forces you to take your eyes off the gap and onto the obstacles that are holding you back.
Perhaps your answer to the question, "Why am I not in shape yet?" will be the same: "I don't eat healthy."
But if you ask yourself a follow-up question using a "what," I bet you will get a different solution than another fad diet plan. Try a better question like, "What is happening that causes me to not eat healthy?"
You may be on your way towards identifying the real problems or obstacles that lie in the way.
Your answer may start to sound more like, "I am not in shape because I don't eat healthy. I don't eat healthy because I am too busy to prepare quality food at home."
Or, "I am not in shape because I don't eat healthy. I don't eat healthy because I surround myself with unhealthy food at home that I crave when I am tired or stressed."
Now we are talking. Now you are asking the right questions and beginning to identify the obstacles.
The next step is creating a plan to dodge or break them down.